Our son got the hang of being dry at night virtually overnight, we couldn't believe how easy it had been! We soon found out when our daughter was the same age that it wasn't going to be that easy second time round. We presumed there was a standard age when children were normally dry at night. We tried lifting, stopping drinks, all sorts. As this continued on well past starting school, after investigations it turned out she had a smaller than average bladder and was a heavy sleeper!! We were advised to give her plenty to drink in the earlier part of the day so that we could cut down on drinks later on and definitely no drinks like coke after 4pm. We got there in the end, although she has NEVER got up in the night to go to the toilet, she is just empty! We have just had to adapt to it and make sure there is a mattress protector on.

Children will be dry when they are ready. Try not to get to 'het-up about it because your anxiety will rub off on them. Have a calm bed time routine. Make up, or read a bed time story about a child who started nursery and didn't want to wear a nappy or pull-ups any more. Make the story fun. Sow seeds of ideas about being dry in your child's head. Include in the story a child who was not ready to be dry at night to assure your child that that is okay too. Some children take longer than others to stay dry at night. By talking about dry nights as 'good' nights we automatically imply that non-dry nights are 'bad' nights. Children don't usually wet the bed on purpose, they are not behaving badly, they are just not conforming to what we would like them to do! There are many reasons for bed wetting. For example, worry about something or someone at nursery, or at home or worry about wetting the bed! One thing you should not worry about - your child is not going to die of thirst. Depriving children of drink too early in the evening may itself begin to bring on the worries.

My daugther is 4 years old and desperate to be dry at night. She did a few good nights but since then she is wet EVERY NIGHT and I find myself changing the bed at all hours of the night! I think it would upset her to put pull ups back on, I have cut out milk and drinks from about 5pm. However, some nights she is dying of thirst before bed so I give her a few sips of water, do you think this is what's makking her wet?!?!?!?! Any suggestions...

hi my 4year old still wet at night but has been dry in the day since 2.Not worried this is not unusual and most health professionals would agree.Males in my family were late to become dry. Sandra.

My daughter has been dry in the day now for over a year. Dry at night too for most of that, so decided to put her in pants. Fine for about 5 nights, along came a coughing fit and ....wet. Been back in pull ups ever since. It's her choice, nappy or pants. When they're ready to let go of the safety net of the nappy is my advice. George x

Great question - no idea either, my daughter is 5 years old and still has a nappy at night - should I be worried? Annabelle

When we potty trained out little boy we waited until he was more than ready and that we were ready too!! Then within a few days he was trained. He wore nappies at night for a week or so and then we decided there was no reason why he couldnt do it at nighttoo. So we reduced his water intake at the end of the day (gave him no milk before bed), took him for a wee before bed and lifted him before we went to bed (as late as possible) and it worked for us and within a month we didnt need to lift him. All are different but this worked for us. good luck.