Hi Kirsty I think once in the night is fine - as you said she is only 10 weeks old! My son took five and a half months to sleep through and my daugther 3 and a half - both were on the same Gina Ford routine so it goes to show that each baby is different and also that Ford's routines don't always work exactly like (or when)she says they do! It would be a shame not to attend groups because people keep asking if she's sleeping through - it's probably because they are more worried about it than you are. There's always going to be some subliminal competition between mums so it's best just to brush these things off and get used to it!

We all know how hard it is to function after no sleep, especially when you have no help,and I cant believe that now my eldest is at school, this is the first time in 4 years that he is sleeping through the night,and looks forward to going to bed.I have 2 year old twins who have had the same routine, same amount to eat, same stimulation, same nap allowance, and they have been `textbook` since birth.I think it`s pot luck if your child sleeps.Sometimes I talk to other mums who follow books, or exactly what they have done in the past with older siblings,and their child still wakes in the night.I think that this formula works best: SET A ROUTINE- you all know whats coming next, EXPECT TEETHING/ILLNESS TO SET YOU BACK-do you sleep well with a headache or pain? DONT BE LIKE THE COYOTE IN ROADRUNNER AND GIVE UP AFTER FAILING A NEW IDEA THE FIRST TIME! I have tried the `return to the room after leaving them cry` routine,I have also altered bed times,meal times and bath times.In the end it is really hard to get the balance right,and it is a nightmare going to groups with `alpha-mum`in attendance who has the child that eats/sleeps/ plays perfectly,but do you really think that happens every day?I am here now hoping that my boys will sleep, and ok they might be up once or twice in the night to get a drink or find a dummy,but at least i`m through the night feeds, and teething!now its just a combination of the right stimulus through the day ,a nap at the right time, healthy meals ,and a mum that doesnt stress over a bad night.I have read the baby whisperer books and Supernanny,I have watched the programmes and wept with relief that other people are experiencing similar/worse problems than me.In the end I found that not trying too hard was the best solution to everything, and remembering that I am the parent that sets the mood and rules of the whole house!